Monday, June 3, 2013

My Home in Christ, Christ’s Home in Me

I gave this sermon at Camp Innabah for Narberth Presbyterian Church's Congregational Retreat on Sunday, May 26.  The scripture passages were Psalm 91 and Luke 19:1-10.

Introduction
Who is ready to go home?  Who wants to stay longer?  At the end of a retreat we are either ready to go home, or hoping that time will slow down a little bit and delay our departure.  The thought of home fills us with a mixture of emotions – some of them good and some of them bad.  For some of us, home is where we find rest from our work.  For others of us, it is where we work.

One day a husband came home from work to find bikes and scooters blocking the driveway, and found one of his three children outside, still in his pajamas, playing in the mud.  The front door to the house was open and there was no sign of the dog.  Coming inside, he found an even bigger mess.  A lamp had been knocked over, and there was a red juice stain on the carpet.  In the living room the TV was loudly blaring Sponge Bob Square Pants and his second child was drawing on the wall with lipstick.  Toys and various items of clothing were strewn everywhere.  In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.  He quickly headed up the stairs, looking for his wife, worried something terrible had happened.  He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door.  As he peered inside he found wet towels and his third child in a tub overflowing with bubbles.  Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.  As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel.  She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went.  He looked at her incredulously and asked, 'What happened here today?'  She smiled as she answered, 'You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?'  'Yeah?' was his incredulous reply.  'Well, today I didn't do it. '[i]

It’s a lot of work to maintain a home, especially if children are involved!  But when a home is at it’s best, it is a place where we can find refuge from the distractions of this world.  It is a place where we can find unconditional love and support.  Wouldn’t it be nice if we could take home with us wherever we go?

1) Christ is Our Home
One of the interesting things about the Bible is that it tells us that God’s people can do just this – take home with them wherever they go!  In our responsive reading this morning, verse 9 of Psalm 91 tells us to make God our dwelling place, our refuge, our home.  No matter where we are – at Camp Innabah, in Narberth, or even in New Jersey – our home, the God of the universe, is right there with us.  One of the visual pictures we have of this in the Old Testament is the tabernacle.  You see, when God was leading His people out of slavery in Egypt to the Promised Land, he went ahead of them in a pillar of fire and smoke.  The pillar of smoke would shelter them from the burning desert sun, and the pillar of fire would light their way at night.  Whenever they stopped moving, his presence would reside inside a tent called the tabernacle.  It was sort of a mobile home for God.  So wherever God’s people went, their God and their dwelling place went with them.

What does it mean to make God our home?  What does that look like?  Psalm 91 helps us answer this question as well.  God speaks in verses 14-16, and describes the person who seeks refuge in Him as someone who loves God.  Someone who believes in Him.  Someone who talks with Him.  When we put our trust in Christ, when we repent of our sins and look to Jesus for our salvation, we are making God our home in the form of a loving relationship with Him.

Allie and I got caught up in Downton Abbey just in time for the season to end, so to get our British drama fix until season 4 starts we have been watching “Call the Midwife”.  A recent episode had a very poetic description of home:
"Home is not simply a mark upon a map any more than a river is just water. It is the place at the center of the compass from which every arrow radiates and where the heart is fixed.  It is a force that forever draws us back- or lures us on.  For where the home is there lies hope, and the future waits and everything is possible."

When Christ is our home, He is the center of our compass, He is the object of our affection and the desire of our hearts, He fills us with hope, and He both calls us to Him and sends us out to draw others to their true home as well.

But perhaps even more remarkable than the fact that we can find our home in Christ, Christ makes his home in us.

2) Christ’s Home s In Us
Allie and I really enjoy welcoming visitors into our home, even though there is often a lot of work involved.  I enjoy the excuse to tidy up the house to get things more presentable, and I think Allie enjoys being able to take more time than usual to prepare a special meal for all of us.  Drew and Zach enjoy getting to know new people, and often they have loving hugs to offer.

I have found that some people feel like this is what they need to do before they become a Christian.  They say, “I’ll become a Christian once I give up smoking, or give up drinking, or give up swearing” or whatever thing it is they regularly do that they know displeases God.  And in some respects I commend people like this, because it shows they have a high view of God’s goodness, realizing that when we are a follower of Christ, we need to be our best selves.  But I’m afraid that’s not really how it works to be in a relationship with Jesus.  In fact, it’s quite the opposite.  We can’t get our lives cleaned up enough to please God, because he is good and holy through and through.  He is perfect – and we are not.

Amidst all of our failures, all of our sins, all of our shortcomings, we must invite Him in anyway.  Zaccheaus, the little, sinful, cheating tax collector, had no time to clean up his house or get his life in order before Jesus came over.  But Jesus came over anyway.  In fact, Jesus said he wanted to come over!  And Zaccheaus welcomed him in.  It is the same with us, and it is really quite unbelieveable.  The Lord of the Universe is inviting himself over, hoping that we will welcome Him in.  And when we do, the King of kings and Lord of lords, the Holy Holy Holy One is gracious to us and comes in and accepts us as we are, warts and all.  In John 14:23,  Jesus says, “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching.  My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.”  Jesus wants to make our hearts his home.

But that is not the end of the story when the Holy Spirit comes into our hearts.  Ben Franklin said that “fish and visitors stink after three days.”  And perhaps you have experienced the frustration of a guest who overstayed their welcome at your house!  But when we ask Jesus to come into our hearts, he doesn’t say thanks for the hospitality and depart after just a few days, or a month, or even a year – he moves in for life!  Paul says in 2 Corinthians 1:21-22 that “He anointed us, set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come.”  Once the Holy Spirit is in us, he takes over!  And he has every right to, because Jesus paid the mortgage with his blood.  We owed a debt we could not repay, and so Jesus paid it for us through his death on the cross.  And now that the place is his, he is going to start renovating.

You see, usually we clean up before a visitor arrives, but when Jesus is our guest, he is the one who does the housekeeping.  Our sins have been forgiven and will be forgiven, but there are some sinful habits that remain, and he starts pointing them out to us.  Some things he does away with himself, and some things he delegates to us to take care of with the help of the Holy Spirit.  The end result of this divine home makeover is a heart – indeed a life – that is fit for a king.

Conclusion
There was a talented high school football player who was being recruited by all of the best schools in the nation.  When he visited the University of Alabama, he noticed a platinum phone sitting on Coach Saban’s desk.  The recruit asked, “Coach, what is this platinum phone for?”  Coach Saban smiled slyly and said, “Son, that phone is a direct line to God.  For one million dollars I can make a call and speak with the Maker of Champions – you don’t win two national championships in three years without some divine intervention!”  The recruit was impressed, and on his next visit to the University of Florida he noticed a gold phone sitting on Coach Smart’s desk.  The recruit asked, “Coach, what is this gold phone for?”  Coach Smart smiled and said, “Son, that phone is a direct line to God.  For half a million dollars I can make a call and speak with the Great Reviver – you can’t turn around a football program without some divine intervention!”  The recruit was impressed, but on his next visit at the University of Georgia all he saw was a plain black phone sitting on Coach Richt’s desk, so he asked, “Coach, Nick Saban has a platinum phone that can call God for a million dollars and Kirby Smart has a gold phone that can call God for half a million dollars – don’t you have a phone that can call God too?”  Coach Richt smiled, and said, “Son, around here heaven is a local call!”[ii]

When Christ is our home, and when Christ’s home is in us, heaven is a local call.  We have a direct line of communication with the Savior of the world and the lover of our souls.  It would be wise for us – and it is vital for our faith – to spend much time in prayer, to phone home.

This is a great mystery: Christ is our home, and at the same time Christ’s home is in us.  The mystery gets even more mind-blowing when we consider that Christ’s home is not just in us as individuals, but also all of us collectively as the church.  In Christ, we are the body and he is our head – all of us together form a home for Jesus.  And while Christ is certainly our home in this life, another great mystery is that he says that he is preparing an eternal home for us in heaven, even better than we can experience today.  John 14:2 says “In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you.  I am going there to prepare a place for you.”  The Greek word translated there as “room” is the same word in verse 23 that is translated as ‘home’: “We will come to him and make our home with him.” So you might say, “In my Father’s house are many ‘homes’” – in either case, the mystery is profound: our home now and forever is in Christ, and Christ’s home now and forever is in us.

When you look for the word “home” in the New Testament, very often – almost half the time – you will see it preceded by “return” or “go back.”  Typically the most exciting moment in a baseball game is a home run, and the same can be said for our lives as well – and so I urge you to run home.  No matter where you live, no matter where you go, your home is in Christ and his home is in you.  Let us now go home in the peace of Christ.


[ii] I first recall hearing a version of this joke from my dear friend Dave Pratt.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Real World Parents

I was going through some of my old emails today looking for some seminary notes I sent Pastor Steve on revival a few years back, and I stumbled upon another free resource for parents!  This one is called "Real World Parents", and they have a couple of email newsletter options if you are interested.  Here is the entry I put on the Parent Resources page of the BrizBlog (you can see a running list of all the resources I come across there):

Real World Parents with Mark Matlock
Mark Matlock is the "Team Leader" of Youth Specialties, a non-profit organization that equips Christian youth workers with ideas, training, books, games, and conferences.  In addition to conferences for parents, Real World Parents has a weekly email newsletter with youth culture updates, conversation starters, and a little humor.  They also have a daily prayer email that gives you a different 10 second prayer each day for your children.  I realize that there are so many resources out there for parents that you might get overloaded, but surely you can fit a 10 second prayer into your busy day!

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Free Resources for Parents of Teens

Allie and I defined the mission statement of our youth ministry as "Coming alongside youth and their families so that they may know, love and serve Jesus Christ."  A lot of the emphasis of youth ministry is placed on reaching out to youth and ministering to them.  However, we are increasingly convinced - and convicted - that more of our ministry needs to be directed towards the parents of the youth we serve.  Not just putting together a calendar of events, or a description of our programs, but equipping parents as best we know how so that they can be the best parents they can to their teenaged children.  To that end, I will try to capture quality resources on this blog that are specifically geared towards parents of teenagers as I become aware of them and find them helpful.  We're just getting started, so it's a short list so far, but I expect it to grow steadily.  If you have any suggestions, please be sure to add it in a comment to this post - maybe it will make our list!

My motive is not purely to enhance our youth ministry, but also to equip Allie and me as parents of soon-to-be teenagers.  Bill Hybels is fond of saying that "When a leader gets better, everybody wins."  Perhaps I can play off of that and coin my own phrase: "When a parent gets better, everybody wins." (Is that plagiarism?)  By that I mean the family, the church, and the world.

Recommended web sites for parents of teens:

Center for Parent/Youth Understanding (CPYU) with Walt Mueller
CPYU has been around for awhile now and does a great job of keeping up with teen culture: music, movies, technology, and dangers.  Walt Mueller, the founder, has raised some teens and is working at this from experience.  You can follow CPYU on Twitter, Facebook, and sign up for their Youth Culture e-Update, a free email newsletter.

The Source for Parents by Jonathan McKee
Jonathan is an experienced youth worker, speaker, and author who equips youth pastors and parents to raise Christian teenagers.  He's also the parent of some teenagers, so he's in the trenches with you!  You can follow Jonathan on Twitter, Facebook, and he has several email newsletters you can subscribe to: The Source 4 Parents EZINE, Youth Culture Window, and Jonathan's Blog.

HomeWord Center for Youth and Family with Jim Burns
Jim Burns started out as a youth ministry guru, but now focuses on helping parents with children of all ages, with a slight bent towards teens.  You can follow Jim on Twitter, HomeWord on Facebook, and subscribe to several email newsletters: Today's HomeWord Daily Devotional, Good Advice Parent Newsletter, and HomeWord's Weekly Culture Brief.

Free downloadable book for parents:

Do you ever have trouble finding out from your child what happened on a mission trip they went on?  Here's an eBook from Leadership Treks called Helping Parents Connect Before, During, and After the Mission Trip - maybe it will help!

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

"My dad is awesome!"

Sunday afternoon I had the boys to myself while Allie was leading our high school youth group.  What to do? I decided to take them to Karakung Drive in Havertown, which is closed off from traffic on Sundays, and we walked along next to the creek.  I knew there was a park with a playground just across the creek, so I kept my eye out for a bridge where we could cross.  After about a half-mile or so we got to the park, but alas, no bridge in sight.  What to do?  The boys really wanted to play, so I looked for some rocks in the creek that were close enough for me to step across without getting wet.  I had the boys hold onto the guardrail, descended the steep, rocky slope (about 10 feet) to the creek, and tested the crossing point I spotted.  I came back to the boys, picked D up and carried him down the slope and across the creek.  I went back for Z and did the same.  The whole process took about 5 minutes and then then the boys bolted off to play on the swings, jungle gym, and spinner.

While I was pushing the spinner for the boys, a girl hopped on with them.  D started up a conversation with her and asked her where her dad was.  She told him that he was over on the court playing basketball, which I think impressed D a little bit.  He responded, "My dad is awesome!  He carried me across the creek!"  Well, my love tank in that single moment filled up to overflowing.  I was ready to conquer the world!  I confess that I sometimes have doubts about how good a father I am.  Too often I run out of patience and lose my temper, too often I do not give my boys the time and attention they deserve.  But at least on this Sunday I got it right, and I am going to savor and treasure this moment as long as I can.

We continued playing at the park for a little bit, but it was past dinner time and I needed to get the boys some food.  The departure from the park did not go as swiftly as the arrival, and it was very apparent that Z in particular was out of gas.  I not only had to carry him across the creek, but most of the half-mile back to the car.  We ate some greasy burgers and fries at Elevation Burger in Wynnewood (Allie doesn't eat beef, so I take every opportunity to do so when we are not eating with her).  Though I know fast food is not a healthy choice for my children (and we don't do it very often), I have found they go to sleep much quicker after having some chicken nuggets or a burger, so it was a selfish decision all around for me. (Sidebar: Elevation Burger almost makes you feel like you're eating a healthy dinner and saving the planet: "100% USDA-certified organic, 100% grass-fed, 100% free-range, 100% ground-on-premises beef...fresh-cut fries cooked in 100% heart-healthy a olive oil."  So as far as fast food goes, I was doing my kids and the world a favor, right?)

I was sure that between the hike, the playground, and the grease that the boys would crash when we got home.  But to my surprise, they recovered their energy - which made for a lively bedtime routine.  But in the end they fell asleep much faster than normal.  I, on the other hand, have been on an emotional high since Sunday.  I will be treasuring my son's comment in my heart for years to come, and I hope to think back on this experience in the days when he is less than enamored with me.  It meant so much to me that I felt compelled to resurrect this blog after 5 years of neglect.  Will it be another 5 years before I blog again?  Maybe.  But I hope and pray that even in another 5 years D's words will have the same revitalizing power that they do today.